TRADITION OF MONEY PANAI 'IN BUGIS-MAKASSAR CULTURE TO LOVE WOMEN BUGIS-MAKASSAR

TRADITION OF MONEY PANAI 'IN BUGIS-MAKASSAR CULTURE TO LOVE WOMEN BUGIS-MAKASSAR
Exposure and cultural application Money portion '      

The culture of marriage in each region has always been a very interesting thing to discuss. Both in terms of the cultural background of the marriage, as well as in terms of the complexity of the marriage itself. Because in marriage that happens not just merging two people who love each other, more than that, there is a value that can not be separated to be considered in marriage such as social status, economy, and cultural values ​​of each family of men and women.     

 In South Sulawesi, in the marriage culture of bugis-makassar itself there is one thing that seems to have become distinctive in the marriage to be held ie money up or by local people called money panai '. This cash money is a sum of money given by the prospective groom to the prospective bride who will be used for the purpose of holding weddings and other wedding expenses. Money panai 'is not counted as the dowry of marriage but as customary money but somewhat obligatory with the amount agreed by both parties or family.      

Money panai 'to marry a famous bugis-makassar woman not a few in number. The level of the social strata of women and the level of education is usually the standard in determining the amount of money rises. So, if the prospective bride is a descendant of blue blood (the royal family of Tallo, Gowa or Bone), then the money will rise tens of millions. Likewise, if the educational level of the prospective bride is S1, S2, or Medicine, it will apply the same thing.

The family (siblings' father or mother), has a significant influence in making decisions about the amount of cash and dowry. Not infrequently, many applications are ultimately not forwarded, because it does not meet the desire of two parties. Ironically, it comes from a father or mother's family. The last step taken for couples who have loved each other is' elopement (silariang), as a shortcut to stay together. Psychological Dynamics that occurs in the culture of cash money '      Speaking within the cultural sphere, humans are creatures bound to social-cultural webs that limit because culture itself is defined as a program consisting of rules that are followed together that govern the behavior of all members of that culture and elevate a set of values ​​and beliefs that follow along together.     

 In relation to the culture of cash money 'to marry a bugis-makassar woman, if the amount of money raised requested can be fulfilled by a groom, it will be a prestige for the female family. The honor referred to here is the sense of appreciation given by the prospective groom to the woman he wants to marry by giving a magnificent party for his marriage through the money.     

 In his own psychology study Maslow explained that everyone in society has a need or wants a steady self-assessment, has a solid foundation, and is usually of high quality, of self-respect or self-esteem. Therefore, Maslow distinguishes this need into the need for rewards internally and externally. The first (internal) includes the need for self-esteem, self-confidence, competence, mastery, adequacy, achievement, independence, and freedom (independence). The second (external) involves respect from others, prestige, recognition, acceptance, fame, dignity, attention, position, appreciation or reputation. meet the amount of money panai "set also considered a form of appreciation

The nominal amount of cash money to marry bugis-makassar woman is then perceived by some people who do not understand as "price of girl" or even perceived as behavior "sell girl". However perception is an image that depends on previous experience. for men in other areas who need not so much capital for marriage as Javanese men, it is very reasonable to perceive the money of the panels' as the price of a daughter of Makassar because the area of ​​origin is not so much. Likewise with individuals who consider the grandeur of marriage is not a guarantee of prosperity of future household life.      

The amount of cash money that depends on the level of social strata and education of the prospective bride is seen from the aspect of the family roles of the bride. Wade, C. and Travis, C. (2007) explain that role is a social position governed by a set of norms which then shows appropriate behavior. this indicates that consciously or unconsciously, inevitably, the people who are everywhere are divided according to several social levels.   

 With the role that the prospective family of the bride is increasing, the value of money that is also higher is the behavior that is considered appropriate for the position. This social strata will affect the point of view and way of life of the people. Parsons, a sociologist concluded that there are several sources of one's status:

1. Membership in a family. For example, a family member who obtains a high status because the family has a high status in the environment.

2. Individual qualities included in individual qualities include physical characteristics, age, gender, personality.

3. Achievements achieved by a person can affect their status. For example, workers who are educated, experienced, have a degree, etc.

4. Material aspects can affect a person's status within his environment. For example, the amount of wealth owned by a person.

5. Power and power (Autoriry and Power). In an organization, individuals who have formal powers or authority will gain a higher status than the individuals below.

Some people who really understand the culture of cash money 'is usually a compromise first but not a few who are less understanding of this culture chose to back off regularly because imagine the amount of capital to be prepared. Meanwhile, the early life of a marriage, actually began only after the qabul ijab.

     For local men or also from the bugis-makassar tribe, fulfilling the amount of panoramas 'can also be viewed as a cultural practice of siri', which often happens when the bridegroom is unable to fulfill the request that men generally make up for the embarrassment by going abroad and returning after have the money required. so the woman he really loves becomes a huge motivation to meet the amount of money that is required. Motivation can be interpreted as a driving factor that originates in man in this case to meet the amount of money panai ', which will then affect the way one acts. Thus, work motivation will affect its performance in work.

     In addition to motivation, the desire to meet the required cash money is also related to the satisfaction theory that is closer to the individual needs and satisfaction factors that cause them to act and behave in a certain way. The thing that motivates one's work spirit is to satisfy the needs and satisfaction of both material and nonmaterial in this case financially and can marry the woman she wants to apply from the work. If the needs and satisfaction are more fulfilled then the spirit of work will be better too. So in conclusion, someone will act to meet the needs (Inner Needs) and satisfaction.